Hmmm...I haven't had the chance to blog for many days. Partly because I have been very busy, and partly...simply because I didn't have the heart to!
I was busy with my own usual stuffs i.e. work, children, hubby and business... Somehow, last week I spared my weekend for my sis-in-law who was leaving for Sudan to work there. She already had a hint about her departure, but didn't know that it was going to be that soon. She was still down with the death of her beloved father a week before that when she got her letter of transfer, which required her to be in Sudan in a week's time!
Goshhh!! Imagine the chaotic..! None of us had a chance to meet her up during that week..until the eve of her departure, and thanks to her mum who decided to throw a farewell party for her. She already looked half dead..(or half alive?) by then. When everybody started to say goodbye and left, she quickly grabbed my hand and say, "no, no, you can't go, please..." Why, when I thought all she needed was a good rest before her early morning flight. At that time (about 11.00 pm) my brother (her hubby) had just arrived from his business trip in Indonesia. So of course they needed the time to be together.
But..oh, but...she started taking her empty suit cases from the room upstairs and... yeah, right! We (that's her, her best buddy and..ME!) started packing her clothes, the food rations that she was taking along, her toiletries, etc. We had "fun" folding the clothes, putting them in the suitcase, arranged, then took them out again, and squeezed them in again.. And my brother was already asleep on the couch by then. Guess what time we finished packing? Hmmm...6 a.m. on next morning, just on time to shower and get dressed to shoot to the airport!! She barely had the time to spend some time talking to her kids...(I think that was the saddest part of it..)
I'm thinking about it again now...whether I'm willing to go through that. I can't even take it when Z is away for a couple of days! Let alone, to be on my own for months...infact years! Her kids would only join her later at year end. And my brother is staying (but not for long, as he just got news that he may have to manage a project in Turkminstan later this year!!) My sister was right when she said quietly before leaving that nite.."come to think of it, what is it that we actually want in life..??"
I'm repeating that to myself now. "What is it that I actually want in life?" I have been busy everyday, especially lately. With the tight deadlines, I have to stay late in the office. By the time I reach home, the kids would have had their dinner and busy studying or doing their homework. And me..would already be drained, with very little smile left. I'm lucky though, Z usually take the kids and me out for dinner or supper to make up with each other, after the long day. However sometimes the kids would be too tired to go out if it's late.
I miss my sis-in-law, and I know she misses me too. But above all, I bet she misses my brother and her kids very most right now. She is a very strong woman and I solute her for that. I don't think I even have half of that strength.
When Z called me from China the other day and asked what I wanted from there...my answer was quick and certain: "Nothing. I just want you here with us". I know I haven't been a great mum to my kids, or a great wifey to Z...but only Allah knows how much I have tried. I am so scared to think of how much time I have missed or lost. And how much time I have left to pay for what's lost..